90 Day FiancéstarSarper Güvenis in America, and he’s showing a different side of himself that has me reconsidering my original impression of the Turkish star.Whenreality TVstar first appeared on the series, he was portrayed as the ultimate lady’s boy.Sarper Güven had been with well over 2000 women and was proud of it. He kept knick-knacks of his conquests, a black book with tally marks, and provided “expert” advice to fellow90 Day Fiancéfranchisecast members who struggled in the dating department. Many fans, myself included, were disgusted and outraged by this type of behavior. Sarper paraded around and claimed his sexual history was good for his relationship.
He was also known for being rude, brash, and employing double standards that caused endless issues with his fiancé,Shekinah Garner. He would flirt and work with other women, but didn’t want Shekinah interacting with men. UnderstandingShekinah and Sarper’s dynamic was difficult, especially because she has a young daughter and probably wouldn’t want her to endure this type of behavior.Shekinah’s friends and family were strongly against their relationship as well.But they decided to push aside the red flags and work on building a long-term sustainable relationship and, I have to admit — I’m quite surprised at how much the star has grown. It’s been a few years sinceSarper first joined the series, and I’m noticing some major changes in him.
‘90 Day Fiancé’s Sarper Seems to Want to Improve Their Relationship
When Sarper first appeared on the series, he seemed like one of the most selfish and perhaps borderline narcissistic stars in the franchise.Everybody enjoys their personal comfort levels and sometimes people struggle with compromises, but I thought Sarper took his antics to another level in the series.He thought it was acceptable to brag and keep souvenirs from his past sexual conquests. He was also adamant about keeping these items and his deteriorating bed in his home, in front of Shekinah’s face, despite her being vocal about her discomfort. The more Sarper appeared on-screen in the earlier seasons, the more I wondered how Shekinah could tolerate this type of behavior. Yet, I’ve noticed there’s been a big change as the years have gone on. In the past,Sarper was very much about his own needsand desires and often pushed Shekinah to follow along with his game plans.
’90 Day Fiancé’s Sarper Güven Claims His 3,000 “Body Count” Is Good for a Relationship
“I don’t care because I saw everything. I had the fantasy.”
However, now that he’s in America,he’s been excruciatingly accommodating to Shekinah’s living situation, even though he’s had endless adjustments he’s had to make. He seems genuinely interested in appeasing Shekinah and making their new dynamic work. For instance, he graciously accepted that his new home is also Shekinah’s workspace and that he has to leave when she has clients. He also accepted that they couldn’t have simple and basic luxuries, like cooking in the apartment. While some of these rules likely contribute to his discomfort, he’s realized that his new life has more strict guidelines he must follow and will be drastically different from when he was in Turkey. He’s doing his best to still remain open-minded about the situation, which is certainly more than could be said for the90 Day Fiancéfranchise stars in general.
The Introduction of ‘90 Day Fiancé’s “Modern Sarper”
To take the first point a little further, Sarper doesn’t just want to make their relationship work. I think Sarper is genuinely changing and growing into a better version of himself. I think Sarper needed a big push initially from Shekinah and once he learned she was serious about her desires and making sure her needs were met, I think he genuinely realized he needed to change. IthinkSarper was lonely living the lifethat he did and then, with someone like Shekinah by his side, he realized the full potential of a long-term relationship.As a result, perhaps the biggest change is that there’s now a “Modern Sarper” that handles the murkiest situations with a different sense of grace, which was evident during the meeting between Sarper and Shekinah’s friends. In the past, when Sarper would’ve been territorial or confrontational, he proved just how calm he could remain under pressure when he was questioned by Shekinah’s friends at dinner.
When Shekinah’s sister visited Turkey, Sarper didn’t leave the best impression, so he certainly had some mistakes he needed to correct. Yet, in my opinion, Shekinah’s friends, more specifically Dan, were far more disrespectful and Sarper did a much better job of keeping his composure. I can understand wanting to protect their friend, but Dan seemed more like a jealous ex-boyfriend, not a concerned friend. However, old Sarper most definitely wouldn’t have tolerated that line of questioning and disrespect that he did from Dan.Sarper especially wouldn’t have tolerated that behavior from someone who was interested in Shekinah in a romantic manner. Yet, “Modern Sarper” appeared and he remained calm but firm. Later, in a more appropriate setting, Sarper did let Shekinah know that there were no guarantees in the future if Dan poked the bear again. However, Sarper’s actions at dinner were a drastic change from what I’d seen in the previous seasons.
When the couple first appeared on the series a few years ago, I initially wondered how serious their relationship was and if Sarper truly loved Shekinah.Sarper, despite being intimate with thousandsof women, never had a real relationship. He didn’t treat women the way they deserved to be treated or even offered them an ounce of respect.More often than not, I found his behavior to be outrageous and a little disgusting.Until Shekinah appeared in his life, Sarper seemed to look at women as a conquest and another number to add to his book. However, I’m starting to take Sarper a little more seriously. Even his goofy and playful side seems to have a different air to it. Sarper told Shekinah a few seasons ago that he would make the changes he needed to and gain her trust. At first, I was hesitant too and wasn’t sure Sarper could live up to his fiancé’s expectations. However, now after seeing the major changes he’s made along the way, the star has me looking at him from a different angle and I think the star might be on his way to outgrowing his partner.
90 Day Fiancé
Using a unique 90 Day Fiance visa, overseas fiances will travel to the US to live with their partners for the first time. Each couple will have just 90 days to decide to get married or send their international mate home.
