Jinger Duggar Vuolois getting candid about her people-pleasing tendencies. The19 Kids and Countingstar is reflecting on howself-doubt during her childhood triggered her to become a people-pleaserin her latest book,People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations, which will be released on June 28, 2025. In an exclusive interview withPEOPLEon August 10, 2025, Jinger Duggar Vuolo shared howshe had an innate need to get along with everyone when she was a child.The former reality TV starwould try her best not to “ruffle anyone’s feathers,” even within the family, and wanted to keep everyone happy all the time.
Duggar Vuolo shared that this quality of hers gained prominence in her teenage years as she believes that one starts to process a lot more at that age. She also stated howthese tendencies worsened due to the teachings of her minister, Bill Gothard, at herformer ultra-conservative church, the Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP).Duggar Vuolo shared how there were so many messed-up concepts that were drilled into her at the time, which included pleasing one’s husband. She said:
“It was all so focused on, ‘Do this, do this, do this,’ otherwise, you’re not going to be enough for him.”
Duggar Vuolo credits her husband,Jeremy Vuolo, withhelping her dismantle her deep feelings of worthlessness. He challenged her to be herself, which gave her immense freedom to open up.
Jinger Duggar Vuolo’s Loved Ones Were Unkind When She Exposed Her Church
In another interview withPEOPLElast year, Duggar Vuolo opened up about howsome of her “loved ones” were extremely unkindafter the release of her 2023 memoirBecoming Free Indeed: My Story of Disentangling Faith from Fear, whichcriticized her family’s ultra-conservative church the IBLP.
Duggar Vuolo and her 18 siblingswere raised to follow the IBLP by their parents,Jim BobandMichelle Duggar. The reality TV star acknowledged that people had strong and harsh opinions on her book. She stated that it wasn’t easy for her to deal with their unkind words, but she firmly believes that sharing the truth was the best thing that she could’ve done.
TheCounting Onstar believes thatspeaking her truth via the book was a freeing experience.She felt it was imperative to stand up for others who were vulnerable and expressed that the only reason she held back from doing so in the past was due to her “people-pleasing before would never have allowed me to do that.”
19 Kids and Countingran for ten seasons before getting cancelled in 2015. You can stream all seasons of the show on Apple TV+.
19 Kids and Counting
A reality show that follows the Duggar family, showcasing the experiences of parents Jim Bob and Michelle and their 19 children. The series documents their everyday life, from managing household chores and homeschooling to celebrating milestones and navigating the complexities of a large family. Viewers are given an intimate look at their close-knit family relationships and the principles that guide their lives, emphasizing their commitment to faith and family values.
